I don’t mind my kids seeing their dad but I don’t want them getting involved with his new partner. He left me for her!

This can be a distressing situation. It is to be hoped that children are not introduced to new partners until that relationship is properly established, as more comings and goings can be very unsettling for them. However, it is easy to confuse your feelings for your former partner with your wishes for your children. It is important that you stop and consider what is behind your feelings. Could it be you want to punish him for what he has done to you? Or maybe you have fears that your children will get close to this woman? As long as there are no safety concerns (for example if drugs or violence are involved) then the best thing for your children is to stand back and let them have the relationship with the other parent and his new partner.....not easy!