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How frightening. How wonderful is C?
I really hope you're feeling ok today - don't overdo it!
xxxx
Ahhh C has been a real trouper, he is only seven, bless him. Good for you, already thinking of the emergency thing, it never occured to me until this other lady asked me, as I said.
My counselling supervision was fine, she is a very experienced counsellor and I meet her for an hour and a half a month and talk about my counselling work. Today I have been to the gym (my goodness it took some doing to DRAG myself there 
) and then a friend I was at college with came over on the train and I met her in town and we had a good long chat. Son has been playing football and then on X-box, which is now online, I came back home to hear a mouthful of absolutely foul language (to one of his friends on the other end of the online connection), told him off and he said well you say it sometimes. Humph! Very rarely! But it just goes to show that they copy what we do. In future I shall be speaking to him in Medieval English, forsooth 
How has your tum been today, alisoncam?
Hehehehe Louise. They certainly do copy, and if it isn't us, then it is their friends. My Mum used to always say that she wasn't silly, and if we were swearing outside, then it wasn't to be brought into the home!
I didn't feel 100% yesterday, not pain or anything, just very tender. Friend came at 5ish with her son. They didn't stay too long, couple of hours, and the boys were excellent. Other friend didn't show, no phone call or text, so C was very disappointed, and kept going back and forth to front gate, window. I so wish people wouldn't get kids hopes up, and then not turn up.
Friend and I were chatting about taking boys to seaside for the day, maybe Brighton. I tried to look at train prices on internet, but obviously did it wrong somewhere or other, as it showed up as £84. (don't think so)haha. Will have another go today, now I've got more wits about me!!!
You're very good going to the gym Louise, I can just about DRAG myself out of the bed some days 
Well I hope this morning has brought another big improvement for you.
Train fares can indeed be expensive, I saw a company advertising on TV that said they did tickets cheaper, just having a look, I think it was www.thetrainline.com although when I looked for my own (fairly local) journey then there was no saving. Would it be cheaper on the bus? My boys travelled very cheaply to Birmingham on the Mega Bus recently http://ukmegabus.com
Right I am off to a meeting shortly. I will say to my son "Thou must hoover thy chamber afore entering into discourse with thy contemporaries online" LOL 
Could this be the response from your son Louise? hehe
Thankyou for the links, will check them out.
I got home from the meeting and he had done most of his jobs but no pots. When he was tidying his bedroom this morning, he staggered downstairs with a trayful of pots worthy of a full day at Roy's cafe in Corrie. As he left them and went into town, he will now have to do ALL pots for the day after tea heh heh. We are having a pizza and salad so not many from tea to do anyway.
Have you had a decent day?
How are the pots looking Louise!!!!
Had lovely day yesterday. My niece came over with her two boys, nearly 5, and 2 next week. C had a great time, and doted on the little fella. They must have thoroughly enjoyed it, as she has just sent a message asking if they can come back again today!!! I was going to do some hoovering, but that can now wait.
C is still fast asleep, and it's nearly 11. He must be wrecked, though it wasn't a late night or anything. Have a stack of dishes in my sink, (could you send your son round). I'm guessing niece will be here around 12.30ish, so best get skates on.
Hope everyone has a good day, will catch up soon.
Take care
Alison
x
That's great that you enjoyed the visit, alisoncam. I expect C loved being "the big boy" amongst them all.
So...my elder boy can be sent out on hire for ironing duties and the younger can be on pot duty, I can make a fortune, heh heh! He has gone to the gym this afternoon. He was moaning that we had almost run out of cereal, I pointed out that the gym is next door to a Farm Foods type shop so he can easily nip in for reinforcements, I have even done the pots myself today so he can't pretend to be hard done by.
It is so lovely not to have any college work to do, now that I have finished.
Hope today goes well for you, I have been messing about on the computer as it has been going wrong so got an external hard drive from ebay for £1.20 and a bit of P and P, saved things I needed onto it and then wiped everything off the computer to start fromn scratch and just put selected things back on, I have been wrestling with getting the wording right for the email servers when I got back on, in fact it was almost a Bubblegum 999 call but I think I have it sorted now.
Cup of tea now! Please report on your day later.....
I'm so impressed. I wouldn't know where to start!
I had a puncture yesterday. £60, just when I've promised the children I'll take them out for lunch on Monday - and not to McDs... Oh well.
Daughter has gone off camping - we were late getting to the scout hut as I was waiting to get the tyre fitted. So two nights, and it's raining! Did have a couple of hours of sun earlier. I'm guessing they wouldn't have had a BBQ in the bucketing down rain yesterday, and little chance in the drizzle that's falling now. They're only up the road! Green field camping - the first job was to dig the loo 
Alison - are you feeling ok today?
Evening all 
Well and truely shattered after another day with niece and the boys. C and her older one were continuously fighting etc, so I threatened them with putting them in a cage hehe. They left half hour ago, so tomorrow I have told C that the day is about ME. Well me and a day with the duster and hoover!!!!
I hope your daughter is having a great time Sparkling, despite the rain, and digging the loo 
You should have given her a commode or something similar, hehe
Am so so impressed with you Louise. Amazing stuff, well done. Blimey I wouldn't have a clue, but now I've read what you've done, my pc is desperate for all of that. I might need you here too, one son for ironing, and other for pots. Make a weekend of it lol. Bubblegum could bring the wine, Sparkling, the chocs, and Anna to pull us into line, and possibly the cooking
Am off to bed hopefully fairly soon. Has been a long day.
Nite Nite
x
Does this mean your plans are ruined for Monday Sparkling? I really really hope not. You deserve a lovely lunch. Like I always say, if it's not one thing it's another.......
.. and another.
sparklinglimeI had to get rid of my car when I became a single parent, I tried for a while but the final straw after months of small things needing replacing and M.O.T and nigly whatevers was a newly replaced wiper that flew off (Treban crossroads on the A5 if you know it) I stopped and I could see it but there was a car coming and so I waited only to watch that car drive over it and crush it.
So I sympathise with you and your flat : )
Insult to injury it was one of those annoying people in their unnecessary all terrain 4x4 things cruising along on the nicely tarmacked smooth (apart from my newly purchased wiper) road.
£60 for a new tyre, that seems pretty steep sparkling lime!
Bubblegum it is hard to run a car as you can't predict a budget for it. Well, actually you can, because you can say it is bound to cost at least double what a reasonable person would anticipate I just had my car serviced but have been told that when one of the spark plugs goes it is so corroded that it will snap off and mean hundreds of pounds taking the engine to pieces and reassembling it. Just goes to show what I know, I always thought that the spark plugs were those things connected to the widgets on top of the battery I do sometimes think I ought to take a night class about cars, even if it is only so I can understand the man at the garage!
Alisoncam, did you need your referee's whistle yesterday?it sounds like it. With any luck, you can have a quieter day today. I completely amazed myself about the computer thing. Sounds like we could have a One Space "swap skills" weekend. One very easy thing to do with your computer is to delete absolutely everything you don't need, get a disk and save things like pictures onto it, as they sometimes use a bit of file space, and then do a regular defragment, which will squash all your files together on the drive and should make your computer go quicker.
Never mind a referee's whistle, I sounded like a sergeant major!!! It was me constantly telling the older boys, 'don't do this, and don't do that'. I actually do think others come to mine, so they can have a break from their children!! They seem to think (and they are right) that I will make endless cups of coffee, sort the lunch, dinner whatever, in and out of the kitchen making endless orange squash.
Think I might have got out of the wrong side of the bed this morning 
Honest to god though, I'm a complete and utter pushover. Sometimes I don't know if I'm doing right from doing wrong. (is that right)?? I don't want C to constantly get hit and not stand up for himself, and I was fed up with him being bullied at school (as you know). Now, if I'm around, he will fight back, and now I find myself telling him off for it!!!! Poor thing just can't win with me, and I'm of course sending mixed messages out to him. I want him to fight back, but on the other hand, I don't want others to see him being like that, which makes no sense whatsoever, as if their child has kicked or punched C, then that child should be told, but they never are!!!
Yep, definately got up a bit grumpy this morning. Will grab a coffee, and feel soooooo much better after it. C is still asleep.
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What would really have been nice, would have been asked to go over theirs today for dinner. I split what little I had, chips, bacon and beans between the three boys, and then what was over, I had shared with my niece. No, it wasn't much, and at that time, I didn't really mind. UNTIL I heard her telling her partner what to make for their dinner when they got home!!!!! That did rattle me, to think they're all right Jack, they are getting something else, when C had to make do with what was left in my fridge.
Yes it's my own fault, and I have no one else to blame but myself. Just for once though, I'd like to be thought of, invite me and C for dinner, let me relax and be waited on. Moan, moan moan
Alison, I thought you were going to 'only' be offering crisps or biscuits?! (I do know it's hard to do that, mind). She SHOULD have invited you - and I think you should tell her too. Perhaps they just don't realise (as I'm often told). It would be so lovely for you.
I can't do without the car bubblegum. I did try for three months, but as I can't walk now, I have no choice.
I now Treban crossroads. Approaching that, going toward Holyhead, the steering of a lorry coming towards me failed, he came across the road and hit me backwards into a wall. My car then bounced back into the middle! Pure chance a police car passed. The chappy was driving a meat lorry, and came running down the road to see if we were all ok - covered in blood. OMG, I said, you're hurt. No, he said, it's from the meat.... 
I loved my Renault 5. I'd been driving for three months then.
As for lunch tomorrow. I can see that my Mum's dog is going to have to be put to sleep if she doesn't slip away today. Her eyes have gone awful (shitzu look like they have poppy-out eyes - and last night, we though one might ) and I seriously though that I would somehow have to find money to put her to sleep today. It would cost a fortune on a Sunday though. Youngest was breaking his heart last night, as really he has cared for her so beautifully.
I'll have to check my bank balance. Just I'm a bit too scared too!
I'm so so sorry Sparkling to hear that your Mum's dog is still so poorly. Of course it will be a blessing for her, but the children and you are a different matter.
If you can't do the lunch, perhaps the children will think of something else to do for you? Perhaps, they can do a spread or something. I know it isn't the same, but it will be special to you.
I think the focus will move to the dog. Something usually seems to spoil the day (sorry, that sounds so sulky). It doesn't really matter, as I don't do big things with birthdays. We used to go on holiday to a caraven every year, and I'd have my birthday while we were away. Always a card, present and a cake, but never a fuss. Which is ok.
This dog has been on her last legs so long now. She's not eaten since Friday evening. I do hope she does slip away quietly. Not for monetary reasons, but because I'm a coward when it comes to putting her to sleep. I don't want her to have fear, or have her paw shaved to find a vein... I don't want her to be in any more pain.
I am so sorry to hear about the poorly dog being in such pain, thinking of you all.
And I have no one to hug me...
Sending you BIG HUGS from C and I.
xxxxxx
There's lots of hugs here for you, sparkling lime....
Alisoncam
I hope your Sunday is going better after the not very cheerful start. I guess that you are going to have to tackle the "feeding everyone" problem at some stage, I expect people don't realise, like sparkling says. Maybe you could do it in a lighhearted way and when people are coming over, say to them "Yes it would be great to have you here for the day. I will just check the admission fee for today......ah yes it is X cos I haven't got enough in to feed everyone" (X being whatever you would like, such as a bottle of orange squash, a box of burgers or a loaf of bread or a couple of things) I appreciate it might be hard for you to say "...and I don't have any more money before Monday" but if you specify an item or two that will help you, with any luck you might even get treated to fish and chips occasionally by the visitors!
Hi Louise. Think just feeling very very grumpy today, but saying that I do feel better for letting it out. I did actually say yesterday that I didn't have anything really in the way of dinner when my niece contacted me, but it still didn't work out!!!
I've done some hoovering, dinner is on, and I'm still walking around in my nightie, (pj's not in the summertime)!!
Hopefully a quiet afternoon, and if I should hear a knock at my door, I'm ignoring it hehe
How's your Sunday going? Hope it is more cheerful than mine.
Alison
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Alison, I don't get it where I live now but where I used to live people were for ever knocking on my door when all I wanted was to be left in peace.
Hope you get peace and no annoying guests.
Hi all
Iam new and newly single as well. struggling a bit to come to terms with husband leaving, although we are still on speaking terms. He is having a mid life crisis and I have to sit and wait for it to be over?
Hi virgogirl. Welcome along to One Space. I'm really sorry to hear that your husband has recently left you, and it's only natural that you're struggling to come to terms with things. How many children do you have? How old? Most importantly of course, how are they dealing with everything. It must be awful for you having to face what has happened, plus trying to keep things as normal as possible for the kids. Please keep posting, as there are lots of great people here to offer their support. Hope you have a look around the site, as there are lots of subjects, so when you're ready feel free to jump in and add whatever you wish too.
Take lots of care
Alison
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Hi Bubblegum. So far so good, all is quiet. My fingers and toes are firmly crossed.
Is your daughter getting really excited for tomorrow? My son tends to talk about his birthday months in advance, so by the time it arrives, I'm sick of the subject!!! Do you have balloons and stuff for her? I'm sure she'll have a fab day.
Hope you're getting some peace today.
Hello virgogirl
It's nice to see you here, and you are very welcome. yes, it's hard to think you might have to just sit and wait and see what's happening. In fact you may very well decide that you don't want to wait around at all, it just depends what's on the cards doesn't it? Keep posting on here and we can keep chatting with you and giving you support.
Hello alisoncam
I agree that children will talk about their birthdays for months on end.
It is my youngest's birthday towards the end of the month, but he has had the main part of his present, which was a shaver, so he is not excited this time. He has "sold" some jeans, these are jeans that the eldest got from the designer shop where he used to work, but both boys have grown out of them. I say "sold" but the other boy has got the jeans and we haven't seen any money yet, he is more excited about that as he wants some new trainers if he gets that money.
A PJ day!! or should I say a nightie day, for you. I went to the gym today, as I am not at swimming tomorrow and this afternoon have been sorting out my work filing cabinet, have to decide what to archive, what to keep etc. Hopefully you will see the benefit of today having been quieter. One thing with living on the first floor, you can pretend to be out , just like I pretend to be on the mobile phone sometimes.
Have a restful evening
Lets hope the boy comes up with the money. That's the only trouble with passing the goods before the money has been handed over!! We've all done it I'm sure, and some of us have gotten burnt in the process! I sincerely hope that your son gets to buy the trainers.
As I'm sat in the living room with window ajar, I can see and hear most things, so I have been checking occassionally hehe. I sometimes do this with cold callers. I peer down the stairs, and can see who is on the doorstep without them seeing me. Wicked!!! If C is around, I ssshhhh him, and get him in the back room so he can't be heard, and then we giggle when they carry on knocking. When he was a lot younger, I used to pretend it was the potato man, and I didn't want to buy the potatoes so we had to keep very quiet.
I hope you have finished your sorting out now, and can just enjoy the rest of the evening chilling out in front of the tv or something.
I am waiting on another machine wash to finish. I put one load in, and realised I had put a flip flop kind of shoe in the machine. You could notice a considerable difference, so I've had to put another wash on just to get the blinking other shoe clean too. C found it hilarious, and then thought I'd completely lost the plot when I decided to put his sandals in too, hehe. That'll teach him to laugh at his mother.
Potato man I love it. As for the washing C must have thought YOU had flip-flopped!
I have a sign on my door that says "No cold callers", it cost £4 to get a laminated one made by a person on ebay, and it deters almost everyone who is doing door-to-door. I think there have only been two who haven't in the last two years, hooray! It even worked in the run up to the election. Of course, people who come round for social visits think it is really, really, really hilarious to say "I'm quite warm, does that mean I can come in?" but I figure after two years of explaining to people why I have the sign I have now run the gamut of every friend who comes. It all came about because I was recovering from an operation and three callers came in two days, when I was sleeping or trying to change the dressing. I lost my temper with number three and instead of apologising he swept off saying "You should get a notice put up, Madam, if you don't want to be disturbed" So I did, heh heh.
Did you have a good evening, alisoncam? I watched that TV programme about Amish teenagers, which was very interesting. Although they live in a closed community, before committing to the faith as adults, they are permitted to see more of the world so that they are sure it is what they want. They went to stay with a family who were involved in a local music festival, they only have religious music in their community and not rock bands so it was quite a strange experience for them.
Does C like that "Don't stop believing" programme on Channel Five? I expect it is on the back of that Glee, which seems to be all the rage at the moment, but I never think to look at Channel Five.
I have seen quite a few of those signs round here Louise, so i might get one. Wonder if there's one for 'respect my house, obey my rules or simply walk away'!!!!
I don't really watch channel 5 either, but C did spot that another talent show was on, so he did watch the other week.
Wanted to be up early today, and out by 10ish, but that's not likely to happen now! Only just up, and C still snoring, so put the time of leaving to 12ish now!
Hope you have a good day
x
Hi Bubblegum. Just wanted to wish your beautiful daughter a VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY.
I hope she has a wonderful day, and it is filled with happiness and joy.
Enjoy the film.
C STILL snoring, so looks like the time of getting out of here has changed again!!! He's desperate to have a hair cut, perhaps he's sleeping in to avoid it, as he absolutely hates having it done. Time for a wake up call maybe, but I'm soooooooooo enjoying the quiet at the moment.
Hope your day goes well, alisoncam. It must have made a nice change to have a peaceful start!
Happy Birthday to little miss Bubblegum as well
I hope miss Bubblegum is having a lovely day too...
She did, when she woke up this morning she said to me, I liked my birthday yesterday.
My sister has a little sign in her Kitchen that says..
Diner Choices.
1. Take it.
2. Leave it.
Glad she enjoyed it Bubblegum. Every year I tell C he has grown in the night, he's always delighted by that too!!!
I'm glad she had a good birthday too
Excellent dinner choices your sister has!
I've passed my re-sit. I'm stunned. Not the worse pass!
Now I've registered fro E131 - working with young people. Suitable for people who do souts - and its an assessment at the end and not an exam.
The assessment with the place I work went really well. All those hours have paid off, it would seem - but for who? I've told them I'll see them in September, and to seriously start looking for someone else.
What I want to do with young people, I don't know. I know I feel I get on well with them - although I'm guessing it could be argued that Scouts are nice?!!
I have such a headache today, and have come for a quick moider.
Looking at the empty basket is surprisingly painful. The basket is there for the other dog, incase he wants to come and sit by me.
Hello sparkling lime
You have a moider anytime you want! It has been a bitter-sweet time for you, with your doggy, and of course the birthday and then WOW WOW! you passed the exam. Am I allowed to say "I told you so" ? Hmm, I thought not, so I will say "WELL DONE YOU" It's opened up all sorts of possibilites now and you can have a good think about where you go from here. Yes, Scouts are nice but actually so are most young people. It makes me angry when I hear older people criticising them with sweeping statements.
How are you doing this morning?
Well done Sparkling, you so deserved that pass.
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I actually think the examiner should be sacked
And I'm serious...
And thank you.
Doesn't look like I'll get my 16 hours a week come September. Maybe just as well so I can get me on track with what I'd like to do career wise...
Congrats sparkling on passing your re-sit, good for you for doing it, I know earlier on in the year you were wondering whether to just give it all up.
High five!
Just now I could hear this shuffling sound coming along the landing and then my son drags himself into my room, on his belly by his arms and in an over dramatic fashion was going.. cake, cake, must have cake and making sort of expiring noises like someone in a desert dying of dehydration.
I told him, if you must die go and do it in another room quietly please.
I did go and get him some cake though, ten out of ten for performance and all that, reward good behaviour ignore the bad, blah de blah.
We still have birthday cake, it's now down to two pieces though.
Just felt the need to share that.
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