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MileysMummy

Hey

im 24 and live with my 2yr old daughter,who is an angel. iam a lone parent as 'sperm donor' left me during the pregnancy and doesn want to know.

its only recently ive started to feel lonely.i have always enjoyed it being me and my little girl.still do.however, lately when i see 'proper families' i feel myself wanting to cry.its probably to do with the fact my best friend has got a bloke that makes her happy,a nice little house and is 6months perggers...as much as im happy for her,kinda makes me feel a bit sad.i hope that doesnt make me sound like a selfish cowbag?

iam usually a very happy positve person and i love being a mum sooo much.but i kinda want the whole package now...it would be so nice for my little girl to have little brother or sister.and a daddy,and me to share my evenings with.

does anyone else find it when you have a really good day out with your child/children,that its those evenings that are the loneliest? :(

 

Posted on: May 26, 2012 - 9:28pm
Louise
Parenting specialist
DoppleMe

Hi Mileys Mummy, welcome to One Space

There are plenty of people here who understand exactly what you mean, the evenings ARE the hardest, but as for other "happy families", please be assured that some of them really aren't! Wink

What a shame your daughter's dad is not in her life and a supportive dad. As far as a new relationship goes, there is plenty of time and  you have seen from your own experience that it is better to find the right person rather than get into something less than ideal. It's a great idea to start making new friends, have a read of our article here (click) for some great tips and you could also try the meet-ups through Netmums. The wider your social circle, the more invites you will get and the more chance there will be to meet a new potential partner, in good time.

In the meantime, there is lots of support here. Do you have any family nearby who can give you a break now and then?

Posted on: May 27, 2012 - 8:30am
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Hi Mileys Mummy

Good to see you here.  It really is a great place for support and a bit of company - even if it is virtual...

Posted on: May 27, 2012 - 11:03am
MileysMummy

thanks for the replies! yeah i have a very supportive mum(and dad) who has my daughter for me to work mainly.and my best friend does enjoys spending time with her.but like i said,she pregnant now,which is probably what led me to feel lonely recently.she has been there for me since the day he left me.she was at the birth and stuff like that.so now she has her own family on the way,my fear is being without her too.not having a man in my life was ok if i had my best friend.

ive just read that back and it sounds so silly! but all of my friends are in relationships,some happy some not.so your right,im glad to be single than in an unhappy relationship.

had a look on the link,thanks.will need to build up some courage before i go though!

so ladies,whats your stories?how many kids and are you single etc?

x

Posted on: May 27, 2012 - 8:35pm
Anna
Parenting specialist
DoppleMe

Hi MileysMummy, welcome from me too!

It is good to read that you have supportive parents and even though your best friend is creating her new family, she will need your support now.

I found that the people that I was most jealous of when my daughter was smal have since turned to me and said they were envious of my situation! The grass is always greener I guess, every family make up is different and we all have our challenges whether we are on our own or not. So keep positive and enjoying life and you will soon see that it is all about us being content with ourselves.

It does not sound silly what you are saying, as Louise says, we have all been there! You have spent the last 2 years raising your daughter, which is very time consuming when they are teeny, now it is time to dig deep, find that courage (that you do have) and go and meet new people and face new challenges.

I have one daughter who is now 17yrs old Surprised - it goes so fast. I was 22 when I had my girl. Your post reminded me of myself. Just remember - This is your life now and only you are in control of what the future holds.

What about other friends locally? Have you met any other mums at toddler group?

Posted on: May 28, 2012 - 10:45am
Tinkerbell2
DoppleMe

Welcome Mileysmummy, this is a great site to let out your feelings & I use it very often to speak my minD, joy and anger....I'm 25 and a single mother to a little girl who's just under one, split was father who I had known since childhood when I was 3 month preggers, he visits but no real intreast there so I do it all alone (happily) it's really good you have the support of your family and friends around. I think it's quite normal to look at other people and think "I wish I had a partner or my child had a good male role model around" all my friends have partners and nice houses and I use to feel embarrassed to say I'm a single mum but now I think sod it, Im happy with my life. while its nice to be free so to speak I miss them night time cuddles of a full time live in partner, let's face it as much as we love our little ones there's only so much they can say there conversations are rather limited haha. 

Posted on: May 30, 2012 - 3:32pm
kength

i am not single, but not good realtion, i like your point, man are really rubbish, the man who tread you so bad , it is very rubbish, why that man not take the responsiblity and take the baby, why you raise baby yourself, you can ask that man take the responsibity. i can understand your situation. hope you anything get better.

Posted on: May 31, 2012 - 8:35am
Anna
Parenting specialist
DoppleMe

Hi kength, welcome to One Space, it sounds as though you are not happy in your relationship, are you able to finish it and move on?

Lets remember that not all men are rubbish and you can't blame the ones that treat you badly, because we are the ones who let them!

Do you have children Kength?

Posted on: May 31, 2012 - 4:38pm