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Hi Kirstie

Welcome to One Space!

Being pregnant is not necceesarily a barrier to new relationships, whether with women or men, although what i would say is if you have recently separated it is usually a good idea to spend some time single to process what has happened. In fact you have made two major decsisions: to split from the girls' dad and also about your sexuality. Many gay women only discover their true sexuality when they are a bit more mature so there are are large percentage of them, with children. If you met a new partner now and she already had children, how would you feel? I am guessing that you would take it in your stride, and that's how a new partner would feel about you too Yes it might make the dynamics more complicated early on but it's certainly not unusual.

Have a look at the mumsnet section for lesbian mums, it sounds as if you would be pleased to know that there are others out there in the same situation.

Are your girls both at school? What arrangements have you made with their dad, and are you sorted with the practical things such as housing and benefits?