Hi I am P, a single mum again but happy
Hi everyone,
I thought I would come and introduce myself. I am 49 (oh no the big 50 this yr lol).
I have 2 children A almost 29 and M just 11.
I have been married 3 times now and I am NEVER doing it again.
I have just split up with my third husband tho he is still living under the same roof which I have to say is very hard and I am not coping to well with that and my dd is not happy either ( my 3rd hubby is her step dad).
My daughters dad is very hit and miss, comes and goes in and out of her life when it suits him or rather when he has a new g/f and he needs to show that he is a doting father he gets intouch but then when he splits from the current g/f it all falls apart again.
this drives me absolutely insane and frustrates me and makes me soooo angry.
Poor daughter gets confused bless her but she is getting older now so hopefully if or rather when he stops seeing her again she will get wise to it tho I wish it wasnt like that
anyway I look forward to chating and commenting on others posts and help out if i can
thanks for reading
P
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Hi fairylady
I'm 50 this year too 
How difficult living under the same roof! Glad you're happy though...
Looking forward to getting to know you.
Hi fairylady, when is your current husband moving out? Or will you and your daughter be the ones who move?
Hi Anna,
I have no idea when he will be moving out and thats the main pert of the problem. He has said he will move out but as yet he hasnt found anywhere. He is only 30 and that means that as he will be claiming housing benefit he is only entitled to £50 a week which only lets him afford to rent a room in shared house which he refuses to do. So as it takes forever for the local councils to house him even with a letter from my GP saying how hard I am finding it and how hard it is for my daughter it looks like this could go on for months. Tho I have thought about my daughter and I moving. It is all a mess at the mo and I am not coping very well xx
Hi fairylady
it would be a shame if you felt you had to move out yourselves......how does that sit financially?
Hi Louise,
It would be a great shame if I had to move it would be a big blow for my daughter having to move schools etc she has had to do this a couple of times bless her, but it seems that it would be the quicker option and I would get more help being a single mum and over 35.
Its all wrong but i dont see any other way xx
Hello and welcome from me too fairylady
Look forward to getting to know more about you 
Hi fairylady, I am presuming you are in rented accommodation? If so, why not find somewhere else locally so that your daughter doesn't have to move schools? There was someone on here a couple of years ago, who advertised for another single parent to move in with, which helped on bills etc. That could be an option?
Have you been in touch with our Housing Expert from Shelter? They could offer you some excellent advice about where you stand with regards to your housing options.
I know you don't want to keep moving your daughter around, however, perhaps this will be the last time. You won't be making that mistake again in the near future. I imagine your life would be able to move forward once he or you have left.
Hi sally w and thank you.
Anna we have tried everyway possible but I will get intouch with the housing expert and see if I have missed anything. I am looking locally for me and my daughter not easy tho most places want a bond and rent in advance and I dont have any money for either. I will keep looking tho. I got the local MP involved too and she has got our housing association to accept him on their list and the have put a bid on a flat for him so fingers crossed well everything crossed really lol.
I will get there it just gets really difficult some days, but its great that people are so supportive in here ,
There is no way i am going to make the same mistake again ever I am difinately staying single
Hi fairylady
How are you? when do you hear anything about the flat?
Hi Sally, sorry I have not been on I have bben low but hoping things are looking up tho my daughter has not been to well the dr says its abdominal migraine which the stress is making worse.
My ex has been putting bids on lots of council properties 9 this week so I am really hopeful that he might get one and he is ringing about a house later.
there is no garantee that he will get any of those properties,
I have been in touch with the local MP and she has been intouch with our housing association and they have been more helpful . All I can do is be hopefull, It will be another couple of weeks before we know anything about his bids .
I am going to therapy later which helps and off to talk to homestart about my volunteering so I am hoping that will get going soon and give me something else to focus on.
Thank you for your message it helps to know that I have support. xx
Hi all, I am a trained life coach.
My name is Katie and if anyone wants to talk please contact me and I will be happy to help.
I have helped many people in the past and I would love to hear from you.
Best Wishes,
Katie xx
NOTE FROM MODERATOR, I have deleted your phone number as this site may not be used for commercial purposes. If you have a service that you are happy to provide free of charge to single parents on this site then please contact SPAN direct with details of your qualifications and experience and this will be conisdered for inclusion. Many thanks.
Hi fairylady, do you have any news? You have so much going on at the moment, but I am hoping that things are moving along.
Has your ex been rehoused? Have you started volunteering? Is your daughter feeling better? How about you, how are you doing?
Hi Fairylady,
So sorry to hear you are having such a tough time, you sound a lovely person so please just hang in there. The volunteering sounds a great idea.
I`m a `Homestart volunteer` too, i joined in July 2011 and underwent a 6 week training course. I wanted something to focus on too and to give something back at the same time. I visit a family once a week and have regular contact with my co-ordinator who is now a good friend and the family really value my visits.
It`s challenging but rewarding too and helps to put our own situations into perspective. i hope it works out for you. Let me know as it would be great to share experiences.
Best wishes,
A xx
Hi Anna and Manc-lass,
great news to be told.
My ex husband has finally found somewhere to live and moved out last weekend
Pheww it has taken 2 months but got there in the end.
I feel soooo much happier now and hope that things will settle down with my daughter now well i hope so before the teenage yrs and puberty set in lol.
Thank you for your support.
Manc-Lass
Yes I have done my 6 weeks training and I am just waiting for my CRB check to come back and then I can go and help a family. I had a home start volunteer when my daughter was younger and found her so helpful and she kept me sane lol. I am looking forward to starting with a family and yes it would be good to share experiences ( no names of course) just how WE are getting on.
Thank you I am feeling great
P xx
Well done, fairy lady, I am so glad things are moving forward for you!
Hi Fairy lady, brilliant news, i`m really pleased for you. Time to look to the future. Good luck with the volunteering and keep me posted.
i know what you mean about the teenage years, my daughter is 12 and puberty has definately kicked in. I asked my mum, was i really like that at that age, i wont print her reply......lol.
All the best,
A xx
Great news fairylady 
Phew, fairylady, finally you can move forward! Are you and your daughter enjoying the space and energy now he has gone?
Hello fairylady
Welcome to One Space. First of all I have taken your real names out of your post for the sake of anonymity, I am sure you understand.
Sorry that you are still living with your ex husband, I did that for a while and it is VERY difficult. Is the plan for him to move out or is it is matter of principle that he is not?
Do join in wherever you fancy, look forward to getting to know you